父亲两周年忌辰

明天(实际上国内此刻已经)是父亲辞世两周年了。

过去这两年中,父亲的音容笑貌,常常在我脑海里,在我的心中。也常常回忆起父亲的一些生活中的大小事情,既感悲哀,怀念,又觉荣幸,感恩。

在我的人生中,父亲的一个违背我意愿的决定,改变了我一生的轨迹。至今每每回想起来,仍是深深为有这样一位有远见的父亲而倍感幸运。

1974年初,我高中毕业。因着当时的形势,城里孩子中学毕业后大都是要下乡当知青的,所谓的接受贫下中农的再教育。年少轻狂又无知的我就背着家里报名下乡。父亲知道后,再三劝我,说我今后还是会有机会读大学的。多番劝说未果后,就背着我去办理了我的留城手续。

当时河南省的政策还算宽松,一个家庭可以留任何一个孩子在城里,不必下乡。 所以政府就同意我留下,并安排到一个制造机床的工厂工作。

这样的结果是我不仅学到了一些动手的技巧,更为可贵的是我可以继续到图书馆读书,增长学识。4年后国家恢复了高考制度,我如愿以偿地考上了大学。而我一些学业优秀的高中同学因为乡下的贫乏环境就荒废了学业,与高等教育失之交臂了。

每每忆及此事我都会感到,神恩待我,给了我一个慈爱,敬业,重视子女教育又富于远见的父亲。

如今慈父离开两年了,但仍然如此鲜明地活在我的心中。

谨此纪念我的父亲!

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等待和希望

十四年不算特别长,也不是特别短的时间。但这过去的十四年确实是经历了太多,因而让人难以忘怀。中间积淀了许多,也不容易割舍掉。

但人总是要向前行的!喜欢也罢,不喜欢也罢,匆匆的时光一刻也不会停止!

在如水的时光流逝中,世界在变,人亦复如此,每一天都是新的!

希望两人能彼此携手,共同努力,顺势应变。

满怀希望,耐心地等待着。

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A Funny Conversation

My wife got the family a big dinner last weekend. Everyone else went relaxing after the meal and left me alone to clean the dishes. Feeling somewhat unfair I complained “Look guys. The old man is doing the cleaning now!”, with a strong hope that some of them will voluntarily come up to help the work. But instead I only heard “Thanks, Dad!” A bit more disappointed, I said “I do not know what to say now.”, with a bitter smile on my face (I could imagine it). Here the funny part comes. The three of them said simultaneously to me “You’re welcome.”

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7 Types of Love, As Per Plato and Aristotle

  1. Eros

Eros is sexual or passionate love, and is the type most akin to our modern construct of romantic love.

  1. Philia

The hallmark of philia, or friendship, is shared goodwill.

  1. Storge

Storge (‘store-gae’), or familial love, is a kind of philia pertaining to the love between parents and their children.

  1. Agape

Agape is universal love, such as the love for strangers, nature, or God. Unlike storge, it does not depend on filiation or familiarity. Also called charity by Christian thinkers, agape can be said to encompass the modern concept of altruism,

  1. Ludus

Ludus is playful or uncommitted love. It can involve activities such as teasing and dancing, or more overt flirting, seducing, and conjugating. The focus is on fun, and sometimes also on conquest, with no strings attached.

  1. Pragma

Pragma is a kind of practical love founded on reason or duty and one’s longer-term interests. Sexual attraction takes a back seat in favour of personal qualities and compatibilities, shared goals, and making it work.

  1. Philautia

Philautia is self-love, which can be healthy or unhealthy. Unhealthy self-love is akin to hubris.

Healthy self-love is akin to self-esteem, which is our cognitive and, above all, emotional appraisal of our own worth relative to that of others. More than that, it is the matrix through which we think, feel, and act, and reflects and determines our relation to ourselves, to others, and to the world. 

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四十年前同窗相逢于加囯

八月十八日-十九日W,S夫妇俩,由E和Z两位相陪来到多市。四十年前的大学同窗,在海天万里外的加国相逢,非常开心!!!

这也是我这一段时间以来,心情非常正面的两天!如同艳阳丽日驱散了乌云漫天!

感谢他们的到来,唤起我对青春飞扬的校园岁月的回忆,让我重又记起W伯父伯母在我大三实习时对我的亲切照顾,也为我们每个人都还有精力游览大自然的美好而感恩!

在他们呆在加拿大的剩下几个日子里,希望他们能继续好好的游览、欣赏魁省丰富而瑰丽的人文、自然景观;同时又休息好,保持健康,平安回到家乡。

同窗是一份奇特的缘分。愿同窗们常怀赤子之心,友谊永存!

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J and D Come to Visit Us

I had big part of my house cleaned, to welcome J and D to spend a night with us.

And then we had some wonderful time together: chatting, dinner, walking beside Lake Wilcox, etc.

A good day to remember.

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English, a Lifelong Challenge

If it was a journey to improve my English in the past 30 some years, now it is the time to struggle to retain as much as possible what I had learned. Neither could be considered as anything “easy”.

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